First off, big hugs to you and your family. This can be a difficult road for everyone concerned.As far as advice, a few things come to mind:1. Call the doctor's office and ask to be put on the list for last-minute cancellations. I think the sooner he gets in to the doctor, the better.2. Contact the Alzheimer's Association (www.alz.org) for information on diagnosis, treatments, and safety.3. As carlatheviking stated, please take care of yourself. There are resources through the Alzheimer's organization but you can also take advantage of counseling services offered through your health insurance or perhaps through your employer's Employee Assistance Plan (EAP).4. See if your mom and grandmother might be open to talking to someone. Not because they're doing anything "wrong" but because there are strategies they can use to manage your grandfather during erratic phases.All the best to you and your family...they're lucky to have you.
Everyone has given wonderful advice and resources for you. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this.Our family issue was not dementia, but post-stroke care, and the caregiver problems were probably somewhat similar. Something we struggled with was accepting this: it is ok to reach a point where you are no longer capable of caring for your loved one the way they need to be cared for And it is ok to turn to professional care, to residential care, to make sure that your loved one has the support and assistance they need. Obviously you are not there now, but if you do reach that point in the future where you need it for all your well being, fuck anyone who judges you for it.
It really is awesome to have such a great community here.
@carlatheviking, I went out to breakfast with him today, and he mentioned needing help as he was getting older. I did mention that there were now special doctors who treated just elderly patients to make everything was going ok for them. He didn't get scared, so maybe this is hope.
@BitingPanda, great ideas! I do something similar with my grandpa. We try and watch one of his favorite movies each week-end. He has trouble remembering if he took his pills 5 minutes ago, but he knows all his favorite scenes and lines form the movies. Especially The Three Amigos. I also went out and bought a bunch of dvd's with old spaghetti westerns on them. He loves that genre, and will just sit and laugh, while I make him popcorn or a sandwich for dinner.